During the holiday’s grief can be amplified as we watch families gather and celebrate, as we set the table with one less plate (or more) and work to keep it together to prevent undue discomfort for those we hold dear. This is the problem, though. Undue discomfort stems from the notion that this is my grief or your grief. What if we changed the mindset to our grief. What if we all leaned into the discomfort enough that we created a shared experience? What if the grief, the shared experience, the transformation of the pain, brought us closer and helped to fill the empty seat at the table?
- I miss Marley too.
- I remember when Marley…
- This is so hard without Marley.
- Just listening and being willing to sit with grief.
Cringeworthy words sound like:
- Look at all you have to be grateful for.
- It will get easier.
- Everything happens for a reason.
- I don’t know how you “do it”. I couldn’t “do it”.
- No acknowledgment of who is missing.
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Sarah Peterson, LCSW
President and Founder